Q & R: A, B, or C? (solving a marital dispute!)

Here’s the Q:

I know this is a long shot in ever getting this answered, but my wife and I have just had a spirited “discussion” for an hour and are not able to come to an agreement, and so I am writing to you for your opinion. My wife and I both respect your opinion, and have several of your books, in fact, I just picked up “You Make the Road by Walking” earlier today at Barnes and Noble. So I’m not just a fan, I’m a paying reader too.
Anyway, here goes; first, some background to my question:
My wife and I are both former members of a very large mega-church headquartered in Seattle, WA. While at this church, my wife and I suffered from what could be described as a form of spiritual abuse: very heavy-handed authoritarian leadership, a performance based approach to understanding Christianity, a consumer-minded approach to consuming Christian branded “products” put out by the church; and I could go on. We left almost 4 years ago, and have been processing our time there. I think I suffered more than my wife did, as I took more of what I absorbed to heart, whereas my wife filtered out much of the content she received as clearly crazy, and not worthy of consideration.
Lately, this church has been getting a lot of negative press, and many people have been coming forward criticizing the church on several fronts, from the way it handles money, to its perspective on gender roles, to an abusive culture of fear within the church leadership. Today, there is an organized protest at the church headquarters, people holding signs and placards and such. The protest intends to be peaceful, to gently engage churchgoers and encourage them to ask questions, but not to obstruct anyone who might want to worship, and not to break the law. The media has picked up on the protest and will likely be featured in the news, which is also part of the aim of the protest, namely, to get the media to look closer at money trails and such.
My wife and I agree that much of the negative aspects of this church are outworking of theological ideas the church holds to that should be questioned, we just disagree about the proper mode of questioning.
Now, for my question:
Would you say that if one’s goal is to get the broader evangelical community to question and reconsider theology, the best method is:
a. To write books, such as yours, that engage theological ideas
b. To protest specific abuses that may be the result of the outworking of theological ideas, even if that protest is aimed at a local church, and not, say, a civil rights or legal abuse that occurs more in the public sphere
c. Both A and B
d. neither a, b, or c.
I say c, my wife says a.
If you read this (I know you are a busy guy) I thank you for your patience, and would appreciate a response on your thoughts on the matter, whenever you have a mind to.
Thanks for the work you are doing, my wife and I both think that it is extremely important to have your voice engaged with the Christian conversation during these interesting times. So I guess, that we can both agree on!

Here’s the R:
OK, get ready …
I agree with your wife.
And with you.
I don’t think people should thoughtlessly stage protests in front of churches. Which is why I agree with your wife. But sometimes, a church is getting away with something harmful, and after many attempts to deal with the issue privately, it may become necessary to deal with it publicly through a direct demonstration.
I’m actually involved with a group of people planning a demonstration like this right now. First, an impressive group of people has come together to request a time to talk with the pastor and leadership of a church that has a lot of power and is using this power to harm people we know and love. If the leaders are willing to meet, we’ll report on the outcome of the meeting. I hope and pray there will be a good outcome.
If they’re not willing to meet or if the outcome is negative, because the church in question is causing so much harm to so many people, we will then plan a public protest, which you should hear about next year.
So, in general, I think your wife is right. But in extreme circumstances, I think you’re right. I hope that’s helpful …