Q & R: WWYD? from a youth minister
Here’s the Q:
Two years ago, I was part of a committee for the church where I am employed, a church very much like the one you left, which penned the following:
We will either exist eternally separated from God by sin, or eternally with God through forgiveness and salvation. Those eternally separated from God will be doomed to Hell, while Christians will be eternally in union with Him in Heaven. Heaven and Hell are real places of eternal existence.
In a week or so, I will be asked for the first time to sign a statement that the above remarks represent my personal position on this matter. It, however, no longer does. I have been a lay youth minister and now in professional youth ministry for twenty years combined, and I’ve never been asked to sign such a document, but frankly I would not have minded signing it even as late as a year ago. But I do not believe I can sign it now in good conscience because I no longer believe with certainty that those eternally separated from God will be doomed to Hell. The thought of losing a job and a church-home simultaneously seems crushing to me and I don’t know how to bear it. This is the congregation in which my wife grew up, and her father and brother both serve within this body.
Any thoughts? Could you sign the above statement if pressed to do so?
Here’s the R:
More and more people are in your situation, and I know its unbearably painful. If it were I, here’s what I think I’d do:
1. I’d go to the leaders in private and explain to them how much I love the church and how much I value honesty. I’d explain that my honest answers to these questions are different than they would have been a year ago, and that I plan to turn into those honest answers unless they find another option.
2. This way, if they want you to stay, they’ll find a loophole of some sort. If they don’t find a way for you to stay, that will tell you that …
3. You should turn in honest, gracious answers, along with a resignation letter, thanking them for the privilege of working with them up to this point. I would affirm, in positive terms, what I do believe – the ancient creeds (which make no statement like this), for example.
I would seek to leave with so much grace and maturity that they regret your departure and wish they hadn’t added this new litmus test.
I know that won’t be easy, but I think that honesty and integrity are harder to come by than jobs, and I’d rather have the former without the latter than the latter without the former. My prayers – and I’m sure the prayers of so many who read this post – are with you.